An e-book has offered you advice on how to be attractive to women and keep them interested. Quite likely, you fell for the USP claimed by the book and sent out for it hastily with your credit card. You have skimmed the book, looked for the shortcuts and the suggestions given in the book and hastened to put them into practice. Did you fall flat on your face?

If you used the words “you must have fallen out of the sky” and “yo-baby” to start a conversation with a woman, be careful if you receive a good response to it. The woman you tried it on probably has already marked you out for an easy conquest. Women of substance who are more than casual about their relationships expect something deeper than a lazy flirtation or a one-night stand.

Simplicity works

Approach a woman with sensitivity. Put yourself in her shoes and think how your attempt at chatting her up will sound to her. Using lines you have learned from an e-book may sound fine to you, but will probably sound horribly contrived and artificial to the woman. Instead, approach her with respect, and introduce yourself. If she does accept the introduction and responds positively with her own, maybe you can take it a step further. Suggest to her that you would like to look at her as a friend and explore whether the relationship could grow. You may find this approach receiving a positive response more often than not, and their surprise at being addressed so respectfully may actually allow them to conduct a friendly conversation with you. This may sound old fashioned, and remind you of the old time movies of Humphrey Bogart or Clark Gable, but it will emphasize that in your book a relationship is more important than just sex.

The immediacy portrayed on the media is more of a result of their wanting to grip the viewer, with the idea that all relationships start and go forward only because of sex. Is chivalry and old fashioned romance, no more important in the story of a man and woman?

Being courteous to women is somehow considered old fashioned. Do not be surprised if your gesture of opening the door or offering your coat to your girl is viewed askance by her. They have got so used to casual treatment by their male escorts, that this sort of behavior may initially surprise them.

On a first date, do not give the woman a bunch of red roses. These indicate a far deeper relationship and romance, something she may not even be considering till she gets to know you better. Leave this gesture for later when you have really found her to your liking and intend to pursue a long term relationship with her. She may consider that you are just trying to seduce her and lead her to your bedroom, and may actually cut short your friendship. If you feel that some flowers are a must, give her a bunch of white roses. White roses are less aggressive and indicate that you look on her as friend and would like to know her better. Such consideration on your part will send out the correct signal to the woman and get her also to thinking of building a foundation for a long and strong relationship in the days, weeks and months to come. Women may not be hard to get for a normal person, but finding yourself a woman who will just not fall for the first guy who approaches her is much less common.

Getting yourself a woman as a friend is not as difficult as you may feel. It is we men who makes it hard for the woman by not treating her with respect and rarely listen to what she says or wants.